You probably talk with your squad more than your parents, and that’s totally normal. You’re growing up and naturally want to form your own path and become more independent. However, there are certain topics that you should definitely talk to your parents (or a trusted adult) about. Although sometimes it might feel you can’t talk to your folks, it’s important to remember that your parents were young once too (we know it’s hard to imagine).
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Below are five things you should always discuss with your parents.
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If you are feeling super sad and alone, and questioning whether or not you’re depressed, then you need to reach out and talk to your parents about it. It’s natural to worry about your parents’ potential reactions — will your dad be disappointed? Will your mom feel guilty? — but most parents are supportive and want to help.
Start the convo with: “Can I talk to you about something? I’ve been feeling really down lately, and I need your help. I think I might be depressed.”
2. Changes in Your Body
If you’re experiencing any sort of difference in your body — from puberty to being curious about any changes to something just not feeling “right” — it’s important to share what you’re feeling with a parent. You might feel awkward or embarrassed, but your parent wants to offer as much advice and support as possible.
Start the convo with: “Mom/Dad, I’m super embarrassed right now, but I really want to ask you something about puberty.”
Whether you’re going away to college for the first time, or you’re applying for your first-ever summer job, it’s important to talk to your parents about $$$. Ask for their advice regarding savings, spending and the benefits (and pitfalls) of having a credit card. If you’re earning an allowance, work out a system that works for both of you. Headed to college? Ask if you’ll continue receiving an allowance or are expected to get a part-time job, and if you are to repay any loans.
Start the convo with: “I’d like to talk to you about money. I’d really like if you could offer some advice about where I should best use it, and whether an allowance/summer job would be a good idea for me.”
Each time you’re a victim of bullying, you need to tell a parent. You might feel embarrassed and/or not think it’s a big deal, but bullying of any kind is not okay and your parents will want to help you and resolve the situation as soon as possible.
Start the convo with: “I have to tell you something that I’m really nervous about, and it’s important. I was bullied at school today and it made me feel really bad.”
Whether you’re beginning to think about dating for the first time or you’ve been dating the same person for a while and have questions regarding intimacy, it’s important to discuss your thoughts and concerns with your parents. The idea of your parents kissing is — we know — pretty gross, but they’ve been in your shoes before and will not only want to offer you advice and rules (like establishing a curfew), but support, too.
Start the convo with: “I have something to talk to you about. I like this boy at school, and I think we might want to start going out. What do you think about that?”
It might be embarrassing at first, but seeking your parents’ support and advice for heavy subjects is vital for your growth and well-being. Plus not only will discussing these tough topics with your parents make you feel soooo much better, it will also strengthen your relationship with them, which is always a good thing.