So you are your BFF are heading to different schools? It’s a little terrifying, right? You’ve spent the last years by each other’s sides navigating this cray-cray world together. And while your relationship with each other is about to become a long distance one, there is so much hope that you’ll get through your time apart while becoming even closer friends. Here are some tips I’ve acquired along the way, after enduring so many long distance relationships. Spoiler Alert: Me and my bestie have been long distance for over eight years now, and are still going oh so strong. Let’s dive in:
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1. Understand they’ll make new friends.
You’ll make new friends, they’ll make new friends, and I’ll bet on my vast love for Chipotle that you’re going to experience some jealousy when this happens. Let them enjoy their new friendships without making them feel guilty. If you do feel that pang of jealousy, remember that you want your BFF to be happy away from home and that, at the end of the day, you’re still their ride or die. Jealousy is a natural part in creating this new dynamic, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
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2. Give each other space.
This one’s tough, but the last thing you should do is get upset if your BFF is busy. These four years away from home are the chance for y’all to grow as individuals, which will only make your relationship stronger in the long run.
3. But not too much space!
Be there for each other. I’m sure y’all already have an unspoken pact that you will always be available if the other really really needs a friend. Don’t lose that. Pick up the phone when you know they really need you, and they’ll do the same for you. College can get lonely, but it makes it so much better knowing you have each other.
4. Be there for each other when you make mistakes (without judgment).
Oh man. College is a whole new world with a whole lot more freedom. Guess what that means? Y’all will definitely be making some mistakes. Your job as a friend is to not judge the other person. You might feel like they’re changing or “different,” but you’re both just figuring your growing selves out. When they do make a mistake, remind them of how fabulous they are at their core, give them some advice, and leave the judgment elsewhere. You have to love each other through this messy thing called life, imperfections and all.
5. Keep the meme/text/FaceTime game strong.
Duh. You already got this.
6. But set aside some meaningful chat time.
Gifs are my jam, but sending each other silly tid bits can only nurture your long distance friendship for so long. I suggest each month setting aside some time for a lonnnnng Real Talk Life Chat.
7. Remember this is just a four-year phase in y’alls relationship.
Long distance is tough AF. But y’all are in this for the long haul, and your BFFness will go so much stronger. Your relationship will have so many phases and will evolve as you both evolve. The is just the beginning. : )
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