You’re head over heels for a new bae, but your bestie is not having your relationship. In fact, it’s so awkward you’re wondering whether you can hang out with your pal and your boy at the same time anymore. Before you and your BFF have a fallout like Rihanna and Katy Perry did over Chris Brown, here’s how to navigate your sticky scenario.
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1. Hear Her Out
Most times your best friend has your best interests at heart, so you should ask her why she doesn’t like your boyfriend. Because you’re googly-eyed over your new guy, you probably won’t like what she has to say, but be willing to take a hard look at your relationship and ask yourself some tough questions. Have you fallen for a bad boy who excites you but treats you like an option? Has he disrespected you before? Your friend might be seeing something you don’t.
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2. Make Sure You’re Not Neglecting Her
Your friend might have a problem with your new bae because she sees him as a threat to your friendship. Obviously you want to be around your guy as often as possible, but you also don’t want to be that girl who ditches her best friend for her boyfriend. Let your bestie know she’s still important to you, and keep your standing Friday Netflix Night. She’ll really appreciate it.
3. Ask Her to Respect Your Choices
If your guy is truly one of the good ones, but your friend still thinks he’s annoying or “not right” for you, then you will have to politely ask her to respect your decision to date him. This means she can’t insult or complain about him in your presence. A simple, “I don’t care if you don’t like his cosplay addiction. Just keep it to yourself, please” should do. After all, she’s not the one who’s going out with him. And if she respects and cares about you, then she’ll keep her opinions to herself.
4. Say No to Group Outings
Although it would be awesome if your boyfriend and friend could hang together and become BFFs themselves, some things either take time or just aren’t meant to be. Don’t force your BFF and BF to be at the next movie night. Instead, give your friend time to see how happy your boyfriend makes you. When the time is right, ask her if she wants to join you and your guy for a pizza date. By then they’ll be able to be in the same room together without any awkwardness. Hopefully.
5. Evaluate Your Friendship
If your relationship is truly healthy and happy, then there is no reason why your bestie should be hating on your boyfriend. That is, unless, she is suffering from a case of the jellies. A true friend is supportive of who and what makes you smile, so if she’s still being petty and mean about your bae, then you might want to ask yourself: why am I still friends with this person? Because if months go by and your friend still doesn’t like your guy even a little bit, maybe it’s not him; it’s her.